The nastiest situation happen not among enemies but among the so called loved ones love means you are willing to nurture another life, without forming opinions , it should be a relationship of nurture , not opinionated Why relationship go from love to hate?
Living in a family , we have to deal with our loved ones ideas and opinion about our life , How do we handle that? These are not your loved ones , these are your extra limbs you are not able to stand on two legs, so you need four or eight or twelve I don’t know how many.
These are extra limbs and when limbs are not well coordinated . They tangle up, you know. There are four or five brains , four or five power centers in the home and for it to be well coordinated. Certain things have to be done . One way of doing it is, with an enormous level of connectedness not emotional.
Emotional connectedness just bring dependency, Emotion is something to be enjoyed , it is just juice of life . You don’t make your emotions work. You should not make them work, you can make your thoughts work, you can make your body work , don’t try to make your emotions work.
Whenever you try to make your emotions work for you , your situations turn nasty , isn’t it? Yes or no? Initially “I love You” works. After sometime you’re trying to make emotions work for you , The harder you try to make it work, the nastier your life gets because emotion is not for work.
Emotion is just sweeten your life. Your thought and body should work. Emotions – just there. It’s like a flower that you wear in your hair, nobody wears anymore. Okay, you don’t make this flowers work, the microphone works, something else works, The flowers need not works, they are just there that’s all
Emotion is like that. It’s just there pleasant and wonderful. If you try to make it work, if you try to extract some life from around you with your emotions , it is bound to turn ugly. So, if you don’t have a working brain if you are not capable of thought then you try to use your emotions to make it work.
It may works sometime that’s the whole problem, it works initially and then you try to push it further, then your life turns so nasty, so horribly nasty. Among people who supposed to care for each other. The nastiest situations happen not among enemies but among the so called loved ones
You agree with me Yes or no? So people have their opinions if you love somebody you should have no opinions that’s what love means , Love means you are willing to nurture another life without forming opinions that’s what love means. We are loved ones. We have strong opinions about each other . No, that means you are trying to fix life.
An opinion is a way of fixing a person into strait jacket , love means nuturing a person into new possibility , these two things cannot go together , No way they ca be together, You make judgement for the moment to nurture it better. If you are rearing children at home you have to make some judgements where the child is right now.
To rear them to a next possibility not from an opinion on him. The moment you form an opinion , you have no interest in nurturing that life into new possibility , You only want to fix it in a shell of your opinion and you will be disappointed if it doesn’t go by your opinions.
No that’s not the way it works , if you want to live closely with people it should be a relationship of nurture not opiniated it will not work like that, Fundamental mechanics are wrong, So how will it work?
By accident; because of the newness of the situation because it’s honeymoon time it may work for some time but after that it will not work. So if truly it’s a loving relationship, there should be no opinion, there should be only nurture.